From Colossians 3, Kevin Rogers taught that our aim in life is to actually live like who God has already made us in Christ. Sin wrecks the image of God in us, and our goal is to put off sin so the image of God can be fully revealed through us.
We don't stay united because we're all so worthy, lovable and we never make mistakes. We stay united as we forbear with each other's shortcomings, forgive each other, and show compassion to one another.
Many Christians struggle with conflict because they constantly forget to "power up" the gospel. The gospel motivates peacemaking, and, through the gospel, Jesus models the essential elements of peacemaking.
Why is sharing the gospel with family so difficult? The stakes are so high that witnessing to those we know well takes time, love, and a demonstration of the comprehensive blessings of the Christian faith.